Why New Years Resolutions Don’t Work (for most people)

Hello Love,

Happy New Year!

Can you believe that we made it to 2019! Praise God! 2019 is the start of a new chapter on life!

BUT BEFORE, you go off an set these New Year Resolutions let me stop you!

So, we all know what New Year’s Resolution’s are right! You make this promises, set these arbitrary goals but never come up with an actual plan of action! People say a lot of stuff but we only give them credit for the things that you do. Not always the attempt, but the things that get done get attention.

But sometimes resolutions get started and then are not completed. You work on them but they never seem to get done? Why? Because you aren’t good enough, you don’t have enough time, because you don’t have enough money? None of these are true.

Resolutions don’t work because you didn’t make a plan that was tangible enough for you to work through. You weren’t specific, you didn’t have a plan, let alone a checkpoint, or a reward to get you to continue working on a goal! WHY? Because believe it or not you have prepared yourself to get it. A resolution is a blanket statement and a goal is just a wish if its not so specific that you can see if when you come across it someone else can see it and say,

Girl, isn’t that for you?

Now before you set out to do 10 things this year….How about you start with 3? 3 MAJOR THINGS. 3 Things That ARE SO BIG, So Specific, that when you get it it can actually be marked off as completed and at it to the I GET THINGS DONE category.

So why is “I’m going to lose weight this year and workout” a resolution but not a goal? Because you weren’t specific enough. Lose weight? How much weight? Through what course of action? In what manner? By When? Is it reasonable? Are you able? Did you prepare?

So, to the woman that is waking up hungover this morning, saying she expects to lose weight this year….She has already set herself up. Because she’s not ready. 

Preparation requires planning.

And if you haven’t prepared you are most likely going to fail. You have TO SOBER UP when you wake up hungover. You think this person can grab something Healthy and expect to feel better. Probably not.

To sober up, sis, probably will have some heavy carbs, some pedialyte, have to sleep it off, (because let’s be real, it’s easier to be hungover at 30 lol) and then maybe start tomorrow. But its Tuesday, today, and I don’t want to start on a Wednesday. So I should wait until Monday when the week is new. SIKE. This is what we call DREAM DELAY. And It’s also how most of Resolutions work.

So instead….

(I’m a day late, because She already turned up last night). Today, she would (while Hung Over) clean out her refrigerator and cabinets and get rid of all the food that may stop her from losing weight. She would get her gym membership ONLINE, you don’t even have to leave the house, and set out a plan (what days, what times, and how she will get there) to start on on her goal. She would need to go grocery shopping, plan out meals, prep meals ahead of time in order to avoid eating out, and so on.

The resolution is the idea. The goal is specific. But the plan it what brings it to fruition.

So resolutions do not work because they are not the solution. You can’t change your life with just the idea. You have to give it a foundation to grow. It has to have roots to expand. It has to become real.  You make the plan, then you work the plan to bring the idea into the physical. So think about the resolutions you have set. Make a plan to make them come into fruition. Be specific about your goals. And don’t have to many of them. We overestimate what we can do in a day, but underestimate what can be done in a year.

So the resolution turned into the goal would be something like this.

By June 1st, I will lose 30 pounds by working out at 24 hour fitness every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, for 1 hour doing a spin class and weight lifting, and track it in my fitness journal.

By (date), (Who) will (specific action here), by (how), (how often), for (how long) through (course of action) and track (where will you record this accomplishment)

 Now go out and set some goals. Just a few, so that you can put them in your done list for 2019.

Talk To You Soon,

Sheamonique Ellis

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