Self Care

How To Create/Break Habits and Be Who You Want To Be (Freebie Included)

Hello Love,

This is Sheamonique Ellis with 1 Busy Mommy. This is the 1 stop online destination for all things personal development, lifestyle, family, self love, and healing. So who you are is just a work up of all your habits.

Your morning routine, your self care regiment, your hobbies, your health, your personal development, family activities is all made up of your habits. If you have a habit of going to museums and bookstore then that becomes the family activities and your kids interests, la la la. But keeping and maintaining habits is a somewhat complex process but to chop it down and serve it up you have to give it a reward.

In order to reward yourself for keeping and maintaining habits you have to see the results of it and see that the reward is beneficial enough to maintain it. For example, you brush your teeth every morning. The reward for doing that is a nice healthy smile, the punishment would be stank breath, people making up their face when they talk to you, rotten teeth…. etc. But these are AVERSIVE and gross and you get feedback almost immediately.

But… not every habit works this way.

For instance, working on your Spanish every day through Duolingo, that amazing APP that has like 40 langauges,  may not have the immediate reward especially if you don’t get to use it often. You not doing it every day is not going to be Aversive unless you create a punishment for it which doesn’t often work. You are more likely to maintain a new habit if you enjoy the reward and not just because you are looking to avoid the punishment.

So the best way to maintain and create a new habit for these purposes would be to track it. And when you successfully complete the duration you reward yourself with something that will maintain the habit. So to follow up on the Spanish app, After using it for 6 days straight you can reward yourself with a glass of wine, sweet treat, a trip to your favorite take out spot or whatever else that matches or maintains the habit. You wouldn’t reward yourself with shoes…. because you wouldn’t be able to buy yourself a new pair of shoes every week.

So habit and a reward to match. Use this habit tracker to help you stay on top of it!

This helps me to keep track of a several habits at once.  Download it here at this link.

Put it somewhere you will see it daily. Keep track of it on here and watch the check marks grow. If you have to put a reminder in your phone do so, remember that do what works for you and do it consistently so that your new habits can just be a normal part of your routine. Let me know how it works out!

Talk To You Soon,

Sheamonique Ellis

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